We love the idea of love until someone hard to love shows up.
I remember telling my girlfriends:
Guess what?! I found the guy for me! He is a cross between Jesus and Prince Charming!
Knowing friends sent knowing looks and began praying in earnest for what was about to be the wedding my mother thought would never happen.
Mom couldn’t relate. She met dad at 16. Married him at 20.
Poor Mom. She wondered (out loud where I could hear)–
“What did I do wrong that Sue is still single?”
During a brief spate of deeper faith, she opened a new savings account for my wedding.
“But mom, I not even dating!”
She replied, “I just studied that the children of Israel put their feet into the River Jordan first and THEN it spread wide and they walked on dry ground! They stepped out in faith so I will step out IN FAITH and open that account believing (in faith) you will get married some day.” (Perhaps a bigger miracle than the parting of the River Jordan.)
I admired my mother, often.
Several years later, finally engaged, I queried, “So Mom, how much do you have in that account for me?”
She looked a little startled: “Oh! I spent that!”
Ha. A mom can only have so much faith. But then this is a post about Love.
A smart woman knows they go together. Love and Faith, two peas in a pod. Faith in God to help us love well. Mothers and daughters, husbands and friends.
But then, they miss out–as CS Lewis wrote:
To love at all is to be vunerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
To love is to be vulnerable.
Kelly Minter writes in What Love Is:
“Others love the idea of love until someone hard to love appears. We have great intentions until the beauty of our spouse fades, a friend becomes embittered, a cranky relative moves to town. And of course there are the coworkers, in-laws, neighbors who just test us beyond our limits. We’ve all had moments when we realize, unequivocally, that we don’t have the love it takes.”
What to do? Ask the Source of Love.
Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.
Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. I John 4:7ff NLT
Now we can all say:
“Guess what?! I found the Love for me. He went to the cross to show me how much.”
Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. I John 4:7
Bethany tagged this photo: “Mom and Dad in love.” (With each other and Penn State Football.) More than a good idea.
This post kicks off my series: “Love & Marriage (May They Always Go Together!)” with five blogging friends who will be sharing their thoughts on one of God’s favorite topics.
Linking often with these lovely bloggers: