Years ago, a life coach said something startling to me: “Sue, you are an expert in this!” I didn’t think so.
I was so surprised with her statement, I actually kept my mouth shut. (Always a surprise.)
My first thought was: “She had to say that–she’s a coach.” My second thought was: “Well, maybe.”
Of course, there’s always someone who has more expertise.
What is the main thing to make you an expert Mentor?
Here it is:
An ongoing love for God and His Word.
Besides your uniqueness among millions, your confidence in God, and your humility before God–what does it take to be a great mentor?
A growing relationship with Jesus Christ.
That’s it. That’s the main thing.
I didn’t say a perfect relationship or sinless existence. Perfection and sinlessness is for later–when none of us will need to mentor or be mentored.
But qualified mentoring does take a pressing-on mentality. Pressing-on to know and love Christ better and deeper.
We pass along to another what we learn – and what we continue to learn – at the feet of Jesus.
As Paul, the model mentor, cried out passionately to the Philippians:
Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:12-16 ESV
Yesterday a conference director called about the possibility of my speaking and she asked: “Tell me when you first fell in love with Jesus. When did He grip your heart?” She went on: “Tell me how He is entering your world right now and making a difference in your life?”
Both great questions and I loved answering them.
I know I love Jesus more today than fifty years ago, but that’s when it started. I can tell you right now how He’s leading and training and teaching and loving me. Today. Right now. He keeps after me, and–by His mercy and grace, I’m keeping after Him.
Not perfectly. I’m not finished loving Him. He still has mounds of work to do in me. But He doesn’t want me to wait til Glory to share my walk with Him with someone else.
Same with you.
If you feel God leading you to mentor, ask yourself:
- Do I love Jesus more today than ten years ago? One year ago?
- Do I trust Him for the unknowns in my future?
- Do I know some of His promises in His Word?
- Do I live like I trust in those promises?
If you answered: “Sort of. I’m working on it,” you are ready to mentor. Paul wasn’t perfect, just pressing.
The most important attribute of an expert mentor is an ongoing relationship with Jesus Christ. Pressing, not perfect.
Excerpted from Table Mentoring: A Simple Guide to Coming Alongside by Sue Moore Donaldson
Buy now and ask God to come alongside you, as you come alongside another.
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